Divorce always hurts

I remember when my mother broke the news to me:  her and dad were getting divorced.

It hurt then.  It still hurts now.

Divorce is a no-win scenario.  Everybody loses.  The couple loses.  The children lose.  Their friends and family members lose.  Everybody loses.  There are no winners or unscathed people in a divorce.

That's why Jesus, in Matthew 5:31-32, is so adament that divorce is a bad thing.  He knows that divorce hurts his children.  God hates to see his children in pain, suffering and dealing with broken relationships.  God knows all about broken relationships.  Jesus came to earth to die for our sins just to heal humanities broken relationship with him. 

Divorce is messy.  It means we don't get to spend time with both of parents.  It means separate Christmases and other holidays.  It means bickering and bitterness. 

And that's why God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16).  He hates divorce because it causes pain for his children.  He hates it because of the problems it causes society.  He hates it because it destroys something he declared holy and right and good.

Does that mean God hates divorced people?  No.  It just means God loves us and cares enough to warn us that divorce always hurts.

I'm glad I serve a God who cares about me and my well-being and doesn't temper his words.

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